I am an ideas person, I never stop getting ideas.
I love hearing people discuss with me their life journey and where they are stuck and not knowing what to do next….I always have an idea for them, whether they like it or not, can’t help myself..
Rambling is also a thing I do a lot – especially after a coffee and this can be a bit overwhelming sometimes for everybody, I only realise this when I see the eyes glaze over. Probably should learn to stop before then.
How important is the joy in your life to you and how happy are you with your situation right now. Are you at the place you’d like to be or have you compromised to a stage that misery is a normal and expected undercurrent of your life.
I have trouble getting the right ideas for myself and yes definitely have compromised a lot unwittingly and therefore failed miserably. What I am learning is the importance of staying true to your trueness, not deviating at all. I’ll give you a few examples here. Many years ago when I had 6 little kids at home and working as a nurse wasn’t the option I could pursue I saw in my little town the opportunity to start a massage business, there wasn’t even one there at the time working in a shopfront. Money wasn’t a problem then but everytime I saw a place that might have worked I froze….I had never run a proper business from a shop, only from a room at home. I bought a set of Tony Robbins tapes (yep-pre CD times) and set about writing, singing, standing on the back verandah yelling “I CAN DO THIS!!!” with my fist up in the air, full of passion and vigour (much to my neighbours delight). I did the full set, it took me about 8 weeks I think between looking after the kids and house etc. Then I decided that since I really wanted to start doing Massage again and nothing was going to stop me now that I had listened and implemented Tony Robbins stuff….I had a hallway in my home, it had 3 rooms leading into it, the laundry, downstairs loungeroom and one of my sons bedrooms and it was just big enough to squeeze a massage table into it…stoked! So I moved the piano out and painted it a nice apricot colour, put up some curtains so the laundry wasn’t visible and VOILA! a Massage room was born!….Luckily I never had to use this tiny badly positioned hallway/room as you’ll find out.
One day I had to be in the next town for a few hours and passed by the local Physio clinic, out popped the Physio (who I knew in passing) and she asked me straight away “Would you like a room to do massage here?” Oh my god YES!! It was one of those moments when it all just goes perfectly. It was a slow start as I had absolutely no idea how to promote my business but it was picking up to the point where I was making a profit when the Physio decided to close the shop and move out and left it all to me, fittings and all!
So there I was, all responsibility, all the rent, all the bills, 3 rooms to work from and so much FUN to be had! To make a long story short, this business morphed from just Massage to Bowen Therapy, Flower Essences, Reiki and classes for Reiki, lots of natural products to be sold, an eftpos machine (I still barely knew how to use an ATM) and a client base of 1000 people, not bad considering the population was 3000.
Then I left. My kids were grown up and after 10 years there I felt I had finished that stage of my life and it was time to move on.
That was 5 years ago. Since then I have done so much, so many experiments and successes and failures, learned much and in some cases repeated the same mistake over and over until it was obvious to me it was a case of Change or Live on the Street.
My most recent failure was a compromise I took on, thinking it was a sensible business move to be sensible, not creative and passionate. So right now because of my compromising I am in a compromising situation and have decided to take a risk and follow my dreams properly, all the way, no more half measures or careful manoeuvres. Just take the bull by the horns and lets do this.
In my 35 years of health knowledge and 30 years of raising 6 sons and a relationship for 23 years that ended sadly, nursing, eating many and varied diets strictly when natural diets weren’t fashionable , experimenting with myself, my family, pets and my clients with food, natural remedies, Bowen and massage, moving from place to place, schooling, lots of mind stuff and self searching (They call it self improvement now), I think I am qualified to start my real passion for helping people understand the connection between their mind and body, the reason they are ill, the importance of eating well with dignity and strength, of not being scared, the importance of having friends and fun in their lives and being true to themselves….100%. Finding their true self, their true life and their true being and everything it incorporates.
For the first time in years I am truly excited!
This is something I wanted to do many years ago by studying for my massage course, even that was a compromise because how on earth could I just start doing what I wanted to when I had very little life experience, my feeling of being good enough wasn’t there at all. So I have spent my whole life collecting experience and unequivocal knowledge to share with you.
This is the start.
I am starting with diet plans, so recipes will be posted several times a week. Welcome!
Awesome Brigid..absolutely awesome. You go girl! It’s been a long journey. xoxo
Thanks Gillian, and the journey continues…stoked!
Awesome story, thanks for sharing. It is so true about being authentic and staying true to your passion, values and beliefs. I love reading inspiring stories like this as it reminds me to look at my own situation and ask the question about what i can learn and how can i grow.
Thanks Lauren, it’s true that what our heart really passionately wants is what we get. Even if we think we want something and do everything right, but there is an element of doubt – it just won’t happen.
Just proof that the ups & downs, the highs & lows can help to show us the way. Life can be so hard & infuriating, times of extreme (out of your control) lows. It can be crazy. It can be wild & exciting. It can be filled with heart melting moments. And just like your story, we are going through the motions, not always sure, keeping our head above water. Achieving things, making mistakes, playing it safe, not really understanding what its all about, but doing it anyway! But somehow all the pieces of the puzzle fall into place & you can see how you got to where you are now. The beauty of your story it that you are able to stop, look & listen, & step into action. It’s so amazing that you can see your next phase clearly. I’ll look forward to some recipes.
Its when I go through the stagnant stage that I get the most concerned, nothing moves, life stays the same, I learn nothing, give nothing and feel…just quite crap.:) But sometimes thats when things really start to move when I realise how stuck I am. I can give myself a good kick in the butt.
Thanks for your comment Danielle